The crazy stages of a cycle

I find myself with a range of emotions throughout the month and cycle.

AF - so sad that we haven’t caught

Cd4-5 - angry that other people have it so easy 

Cd6-8 - positive and I create plans and add things to try with this cycle

Cd9-cd14 - proactive and stressing about ovulation and frantically convincing a tired OH to DTD

Cd15-cd20 - analysing every non symptom and convincing myself that, even though we haven’t had sex nearly enough, I’m definitely pregnant and testing from 8dpo

Cd20-cd26 - turning into a miserable loon because I definitely am not pregnant because test are all negative and then stressing out until utter misery hits if AF.

And EVERY month my other half has to deal with this. 

This month however I feel is a little better. My hormones have levelled out a little more, my cycle seems back to normal. We’re on cd14 possible ovulation. We’re in day 6 of our 10day marathon. And I feel good. We’ve hit every possible day. Ovulation is yesterday or today. Chart looks good. I feel relaxed. I’m going to try natural progesterone cream and pineapple core in this TWW. And if we haven’t caught this month, I know there is NOTHING else we could have done! 

DTD Marathon?

So I’m currently day three of our 10 day marathon.

I’ve been massively upset recently and it’s been nice to have something else to focus on. First OHs birthday and now fun ways to keep DTD interesting to ensure the longevity of the 10day stint.

We’ve thrown in a few new positions, and now I’m sat with my legs up the wall hoping that his guys get up there well. NO idea if it works or not, but we’ll see! Also reading conflicting advice re DTD every day vs every other day. But OH doesn’t seem to have an issue with swimmers, so we figured hey let’s try every day for 10 days. 

He never actually got tested. He was booked in for the Tuesday and the Saturday before I got my BFP. So he never went to get his swimmers checked. If no bfp in a couple of months he may have to go get checked. 

Cervical Position

Ok... so... this one gets me. I have NO idea what I’m feeling for. I can’t find any donut up there!

Below is what I googled. AND there are pictures!! Haha. So I’ve been poking around for days trying to figure it out. I’ll keep trying for the month, but I have NO idea what I’m doing down there!

The positions to know are:

1. After the Menstrual Cycle: The cervix will tilt toward your rectum following your period. You’ll find that the cervix is firm and closed at this time.
2. Before Ovulation: As the estrogen levels in the body increase, the cervix begins to straighten, becoming softer and partially open.
3. Around Ovulation: The most important position for women trying to get pregnant is the positioning right before ovulation. This can be determined by a cervix that is vertical, open and very soft.
4. From Ovulation to Menstruation:Heading back to the first position after ovulation, the cervix will begin to move back toward the rectum, will start to firm, and will be closed. This feels a lot like the position right after menstruation.

The rule is this:

• Low: Your cervix is low if you are able to insert your finger up to just one knuckle before reaching the cervix.
• Medium: You are able to insert your finger to the second knuckle (the middle of the finger).
• High: A high cervix will allow you to insert an entire finger into the vagina. You’ll be able to insert your finger up until the start of the hand.

The start of a new cycle

This is where I’m all cool, calm and collected. I look like I’ve got my shit together. I think it’s actually just cos there ain’t much happening. AF has just finished, my CBFM weirdly is registering high already on cd6&7 and 2 faint lines in IC OPKs (which I normally get no line on until later in the cycle)

OH has stepped in this month to take charge of ttc. We’ll be doing a 10 marathon from his birthday cd9-cd19. This will cover all bases no day left unattended. Provided we don’t die before hand. 10 days of DTD May sound amazing in your 20s or on holiday, but when you have two demanding jobs, pets to look after, an 11yr old at the weekends and general household chores to do it sort of falls into the ‘chore’ category. Outside of TTC our sex life is ok. We’re not spring chickens, but it works for both of us. And each time is great. Now..... it’s sort of taken the fun out. There’s definitely a difference between ttc sex and sex for fun. But we’ve spoken about it and we gotta do what we gotta do. 

So we’ve got our plan for the month, I got my natural progesterone cream and my pineapple that I’ll be eating in the tww. So we’re good to go. 

So far this month my temps are way lower than usual. Under 36degrees. Nice and stable. Hoping for a nice easy month.

Puppy or puppies

So my OH suggested today that we get TWO... yes 2 St. Bernard puppies! One of the brothers of our pup has been unreserved... we’d have Teddy and Bear if we got both of them!! Still not totally sold on the idea.. but babies are babies. And I just want babies to love!! 😍🐶🐻👶

End of AF

So as we approach the end of my second AF since MMC, I’m starting to think about how we’re going to target this month. OH has made it quite clear we’re going to give it all we’ve got this month. We’re going to DTD every day from cd10-cd17 (possibly cd20 depending on O) we’re not going to have sex prior to this (which we usual do to celebrate end of AF) but instead save the reserve for closer to the time. 

It’s had a certain appeal.. no sex until D day!! Haha almost like increasing the suspense!! 

Currently sat in the only bath of the month. Baths after this are banned (I’ve heard negative things about baths and TTC/pregnancy)

So this month we have every day sex, my progesterone cream has arrived which I’ll be trialing after O until AF/bfp and pineapple. 

Cross your fingers for an xmas baby!!!

On To A Christmas Baby....

We thats it AF FINALLY showed up. Kind of pleased. On discussion with OH (his suggestion) we're gonna hit it mega hard this next cycle. Cover all avenues. I've ordered a natural progesterone cream... which he's not too excited about me using. But we'll see....

This next cycle has big hope... last chance for a 2018 bub!!! i'll get the Christmas outfit ready!!