Conception...how it all works.... the low down! (without the technical sh*t)

I felt it was worth writing (to take my mind off my BFN this morning) about how conception ACTUALLY works. Until we began TTC i assumed you had sex a couple times and then BAM!!! A baby! But its totally more complex! For those of you who paid attention in sex ed at school you may know all of this, for those of you who don't then here's what i've learnt...

So there is actually only ONE day in your cycle that you conceive. (I know right!?!?! MIND-BLOWING)

Of course there is more than one day that you are fertile, but irrelevant of what day you have sex, the sperm meets the egg on the day the egg is released.

A few key facts:
Sperm lives for up to 5 days
An egg once released lives for up to 1 day
You tend to ovulate about 24/48 hours after your first positive OPK.

So what this means is if you're due to ovulate around cd14 (if you have a totally 'normal' 28 day cycle) then you want to be having sex as often as possible from cd10 - cd15.

You want to try where possible to have sex on the day of your positive OPK. As far as I'm aware there is no proven better position, so enjoy it whatever takes your fancy. And i always lay down with slightly raised hips for 20mins after.

Also i was mind-blown to find out that the semen that 'leaks' out after sex doesn't really contain much sperm, they've already left and started the journey up to the fallopian tube. So don't worry too much if  it all leaks out or if you have to go to the loo.

DONT USE REGULAR LUBE!!!! Most lubes contain spermicide. They have sperm friendly lube which helps the sperm travel. Some brands... Conceive Plus, Preseed, Fertile Check Gel. Personally i've only used Fertile Check, because i could buy it in boots. It was only later that i found out about the other two. I used it twice (on the sly from my OH because i think it could kill the mood) and we got our BFP that month. (this was the pregnancy we then lost at 7 weeks) But i like the gel. I don't have massive amounts of CM and having sex often, even when you're not in the mood, can need a little bit of help.